I heard a woman on the radio yesterday discussing the type of men that women choose. One thing caught my attention, she said, “if the man you meet at the club at 2:00 AM in the morning and that you slept with last night turns out to be a dog, what did you expect? What is any respectable woman doing at 2:00 AM in the morning that she can not do at 10:00 AM.”
So many of us want men, but for different reasons. Now, don’t lie to yourself, it’s OK and respectable and romantic and human to want companionship (for a lifetime). It’s just this, are we choosing for the right reasons and are we positioning ourselves to meet the right men? If you are willing to deal with the truth, then you are willing to set yourself up for a beautiful future.
I am not saying that you need a man that has accomplished all his dreams when you meet him. I’m saying, you need a man that has conquered his character issues when you meet him. In other words, he knows the difference between a lie and the truth and chooses the truth. He knows how to show kindness without being a pushover. He knows how to be firm without being violent. He knows what real love is even as he waits to experience it with you. You need a real man of character who is secure in his own skin, and then, all the other things that you like.
EXERCISE. Consider this: have I ever chosen a man because I needed a way out? have I ever settled because no one else was there? have I ever chose for looks first, character second and then paid the price later? have I ever thought I could change a man’s character, and then later realized he had no desire to change?
We don’t have to be perfect when we meet the man of our dreams and neither does our man, but one thing must be fundamental in our choosing:
1. We will not be unequally yoked. If you are saved and filled with the Holy Spirit and actively in love with God, then you need a man that is the same. If you tell the truth even when a lie would be easier, then you need a man who is the same. If you are a giver, then you need a man who is the same. If you are humble and hate pride, then you need a man who is the same way.
This post is for single ladies who are in the process of choosing. Choose wisely so that you can break the standards of failing, violent and/or boring marriages. Be painfully honest with yourself. & Involve God in your decision so that it can last for a lifetime. Be the kind of woman who gives your man a great reflection. Choose the kind of man who is qualified to sit in the city gates at the appointed time.
MizJAI
Her husband is known in the [city's] gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. Proverbs 31:23 AMP
